Mum guilt logoAnother week brings another wave of #mumguilt. It seems my anxious and over analytical mind can find anything and everything to feel guilty over and this week it’s what I’m doing this very second.

Yes… I’ve started to feel guilty about blogging. I feel guilty that I enjoy it, and I look forward to doing it, therefore I enjoy nap time so I can get stuck in. I also find that I’m constantly looking for post inspiration in everything we do together. Although this does make me appreciate our moments and remember details I’d probably ordinarily forget so not all bad if my attention drifts for a moment or two…

I started my blog to serve as a diary of Henry’s first year, or the second half of his first year but I’ve also started to feel guilty about putting our lives all over the internet when he has no say in the matter. I know that the online world plays a huge part modern life, most people are on some form of social media and in many ways blogging is no different to sharing on Facebook. And I probably have far fewer readers than most people have Facebook ‘friends’. I also know that I could delete it at the push of a button should I so wish and it would probably be forgotten fairly quickly, but it seems my mum conscience likes to torture me for all manner of things.

Do you ever feel guilty for blogging?


henry nappingI’ve written previously about my naptime woes here, but in the last few months we’ve started to make some progress and I can generally bank on at least one nap a day to cram in all of my  housework…. who am I kidding?! I definitely don’t use nap time to do housework, I definitely spend it on social media…but my Dyson is pretty noisy, as is my washing machine…

So here it is, a nap of decent length in 6 simple steps…

1) Pick exactly the right moment. Too close to feed time and you’re treading on dangerous territory. Sleepy baby + hungry baby = hangry baby (baby maths you don’t want to get right).

2) Following on from above, don’t miss the window of opportunity. Start the process at the first sign of a yawn or eye rub, before the second wind kicks in or you’re setting yourself up for a day of minimal sleep and maximum tears.

3) Make plans for directly after naptime. A surefire way to encourage a longer than average nap is to make plans you’ll inevitably have to cancel because baby is still asleep. Obviously it’s not ideal for the person you’re cancelling on but don’t be tempted to lie to your baby and pretend you have after nap plans. They’ll see right through you.

4) Do not make plans for what you’ll do during naptime. You’re setting yourself up for a fall. Even as their eyes are starting to close, do not allow your mind to wander.

5) Don’t tell anyone that your baby is napping and definitely DO NOT BROADCAST A NAP ON SOCIAL MEDIA. This is a surefire way to put an end to said nap. Sleep is for the weak in baby circles so napping privacy must be respected at all times.

6) Don’t make a warm drink. Everyone knows a baby’s sole aim in life is to prevent their parents from enjoying hot beverages so don’t make this rookie mistake, no matter how tempting.

If I’ve led you on a merry dance down the garden path with this post and you haven’t found a nap at the end I’m very sorry… a trip in the car generally does the trick and I have been known to sit in the car once I’ve arrived at my destination with the engine still running until the nap comes to a natural end…

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Asleep in bed, just not his bed

Asleep in bed, just not his bed.

Oh naptime. Restorative for baby, refreshing for Mummy but oh so tricky. For months Henry would only nap in the car or the pram. My attempts to get him to nap in his crib would go something like this…

He starts to gaze into the distance, rubbing his eyes and yawning. I whip him into his crib and endeavour to put him to sleep. The mere action of putting him into his bed sends him into hysterics, and so back out he comes. Do the whole shush-pat routine until his eyes close again and attempt to put him into bed, as the books say, ‘sleepy but awake’ (what does that even mean?!) Hysteria ensues again and so back out he comes. Repeat the whole charade 74 times, at which point give in because it’s feed time.

Six months in and we’re finally getting somewhere. We have a morning nap, around 10.30-11 most days and an afternoon nap at around 2.30. Both only tend to last around 30 minutes but he sleeps pretty well during the night (most of the time) so I can live with that. However, in order to get to this point we’ve developed a boob shaped sleep association, I’m told this isn’t a good thing, but since it soothes and comforts him I don’t really see an issue. Plus I have (albeit very small) boobs. I don’t have much patience…

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