It’s ok…#mumguilt 008 featuring Frenchie Mummy

When I first started this series many moons (8 weeks) ago, the lovely Frenchie Mummy suggested I open it up to other bloggers, and what a great idea that was. So how could I not feature my favourite Frenchie first? 

The Frenchie Mummy is one of my favourite reads – honest, witty and throughly entertaining, so I’m delighted to introduce Cécile, aka Frenchie Mummy as my first ever guest blogger….

Guilt. We call it la culpabilité in Frenchie language.

I had many guilty moments since we had Baba. The time I dressed him up with totally unmatched colours and he didn’t look cute as usual. The other one when I dropped his dummy in some wine in hope to make him have a nap in the afternoon (I needed to blog so badly I was desperate!)

Yes, sometimes I do not cook wonderful meals and I feel bad about ordering a pizza. So bad indeed that I also get some ice cream (a full tube of Häagen-Dazs doesn’t scare Frenchie Mummy when Grumpy Boyfriend is out) and a good bottle of wine.

But you know what is the thing I am the most guilty about? Baba’s sleeping routine. Or the lack of it should I say? It’s just something we have not really nailed with Grumpy Boyfriend…

Here are some of my best successes with mon bébé:

But sleeping time? C’est l’horreur in the Frenchie household! Just thinking about it is giving me an extra grey hair

This baby doesn’t like sleeping! And I feel like it’s my fault.

When he was very little, I read a lot about it and the importance of good habits. ‘Give him a bath, then a nice cuddle while you read your baby a book. Eventually, put him to bed giving him a kiss’. A fairy tale! Un conte de fées that is quite not happening for us. A book? Did you try to read a book to a 6 months old? I did and all Baba cared about was to eat the bloody livre!

The thing is, I bathe Baba at around 6pm every day. When it was time to implement a sleeping routine, I thought it was a bit early to put him to bed, especially when he was always having his last bottle at 8.30pm. And my mum agreed with me. ‘Just do it the French way.’ English people tend to have dinner quite early before 7pm (or am I wrong?). I thought that was why my health visitor told me to put him to bed at that time.

Grumpy Boyfriend and I always have dinner around 8pm (sometimes even later). So to cut a long story short, I would not put Baba in bed before 8.30pm. Correction! To be totally honest, he would have his last bottle and then would fall asleep in my arms. I know massive mistake!

Now evenings are a pain in the bum (to say the least…). I am dreading to get him to sleep. I tried to use some routines: give him some milk, sing him a lullaby (a made up song as Frenchie Mummy is not a very good singer) and then put him gently to bed.

He would start making a kind of a whinge, a weird noise that I can’t even describe. Then a louder roar and the cry, endlessly. It could last up to 40 minutes if I let him do so. He rolls over in his bed, ends up knocking his head and then c’est la tragédie! He screams so loudly that we have to put subtitles on to make sure that we follow on the movie we are trying to watch!

So I give up, pick him up and he stays up with us until he falls asleep either on the sofa or in his bouncer chair… Yep, that’s life. When you fail at doing something, well you get to endure the consequences…

All I am hoping for now is that we will not be struggling so badly to put Baba to bed once I am back to work in January. So this is my big #mumguilt; the thing I am not proud of as a super Frenchie mama.

What is yours? Do you also struggle to put your kids to bed? If so, please tell me it will get better! And if it’s not the case, just keep quiet or lie ludicrously!

P.S: the examples at the start of this post are totally fictive. I never ever gave some wine to my dearest Baba to get him to have a nap! I just bore him with cartoons on the laptop or sing with the worst voice ever some Frenchie songs from the 60’s. Some part of me thinks that I am like a modern Brigitte Bardot or Vanessa Paradis!

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  1. September 16, 2016 / 8:37 am

    Love the pic! I mean the text you put on it! Merci for asking me to be first. Long life to the #mumguilt series xxx

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 16, 2016 / 9:51 pm

      Thank you for suggesting it to me! I’ve loved having you bring a little Frenchie to my blog so thank you for getting involved! 😉 xxx

  2. September 17, 2016 / 10:21 am

    We struggle to keep Pops up til 6pm most nights. By 5pm she’s flagging and we can normally get another half hour out of her with bathtime before her last bottle and bed. She’s always more than ready for bed and actually shrieked as Mr J carried her up to bed the other night as she knew where she was going…but that’s because she can be a git for not sleeping in the day. #fortheloveofblog

  3. September 17, 2016 / 5:15 pm

    I had no idea sleep was such a huge deal before I had a baby and then wham, you’re reading every damn book you can, to get your precious darling to last longer than five minutes! Rocket man is generally a good sleeper, so we’ve lucked out a bit, but had a nightmare with feeding from day one, so I think we all get given different issues to deal with. I must say, once we started putting him to bed at 7pm he slept much better. I realise now he was over-tired. I now gauge his bedtime on how much sleep he has in the day. If he doesn’t have much, it’s bed at 6pm. If he’s had quite a lot, 7-7.30pm. It seems to be working so far. I do also think a lot of it is nature, not nurture. Some babies just aren’t sleepers and it’s nothing that you’re doing wrong. Hope you get some sleep soon! x #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 19, 2016 / 6:49 pm

      I loved this post as I share these woes. I’m sure it won’t be forever! x

  4. September 17, 2016 / 9:02 pm

    OOOh I never had to deal with the whole sleep time routine, adopted older kids, we do is run them ragged so til they fall into bed (some times even that doesn’t work – then we’re done for!).

    But I get the whole mummy guilt – for me it’s am i good enough, if things go wrong – was that something I said or did, when they get older…..well the list goes on! Hubby tries to knock sense into me – we’re there for them, and we’ve made a good start. But mother & guilt – seems kinda inseparable!

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 19, 2016 / 6:48 pm

      Motherhood and guilt are definitely a pair! We shouldn’t feel guilty, we’re all trying our best but it’s hard! x

  5. September 18, 2016 / 7:38 pm

    hehe I feel your pain. we have always had a really strict routine and yes I do think it has helped sometimes, there are plenty of other times when it hasn’t. I find it changes. sometimes he goes down well and other times he is a stinker. we are currently going through a “I don’t want to go to sleep” routine. it was last week’s thunderstorms that have caused a set back! #fortheloveofblog

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 19, 2016 / 6:47 pm

      Oh the thunderstorms! They didn’t wake Henry up, the one night he didn’t wake up in I don’t know how long and the blooming’ thunderstorms woke me up! Typical! x

  6. September 19, 2016 / 1:39 pm

    Oh sleeping is such a hard one to crack! My daughter has always slept well at night but trying to get her to nap in the daytime was awful! We just couldn’t get any sort of routine and she would only fall asleep in my arms. Then suddenly at about 12mths old, she started falling asleep in her lunch. I decided to capitalise on this and started giving her an earlier lunch and then putting her into bed. That was it! She’s almost 2 now and still has her nap straight after lunch. It just happened by itself. I hope it works out for you soon too. What a great start to the series and I’m looking forward to reading some more! #MarvMondays

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 19, 2016 / 6:44 pm

      I have nap woes too, I’m lucky if I get an hour! Sleep is a tricky subject! Thank you for your comment! x

  7. September 20, 2016 / 9:14 pm

    I think you’re right not to bother too much with a sleep routine. There’s a lot of advice, much of it contradictory. Best to follow what works for you. It’s easy as parents to get caught up in modelling how we parent on the ‘ideal’ approach, with sleeping routines etc. But it’s unlikely that these things are going to really impact our kids’ future, so as long as we can cope as parents, we shouldn’t be stressing about following the rules so much. Good luck!

  8. charlie p
    September 21, 2016 / 9:55 am

    a good sling

  9. September 22, 2016 / 8:32 pm

    Sleep or the lack of it must be the worst part of being a parent! Sometimes babies just don’t like it no matter how good your routine is. Sooner or later though they grow out of that phase and you can get your sleep back. Thanks for joining us on #fortheloveofBLOG

  10. September 23, 2016 / 8:58 pm

    I can relate to this as my first was not allowed to be outside of a routine and he slept like an angel. Kipper on the other hand I let him fall asleep in my arms every night. Mistake. I’ve had some meetings to go to at school this week and he won’t settle without me! So hubby is less than impressed. Oooppps! Popping by from #MarvMondays

  11. September 24, 2016 / 5:06 pm

    Sleep is always such a tricky subject – it all depends on your own routine I suppose. As we already have one in place with our 2 year old, the baby will just settle into it I suppose. We put A to bed around 7 and tend to have our dinner later! Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

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