It’s ok…007 #mumguilt

Mum guilt logoAnother week brings another wave of #mumguilt. It seems my anxious and over analytical mind can find anything and everything to feel guilty over and this week it’s what I’m doing this very second.

Yes… I’ve started to feel guilty about blogging. I feel guilty that I enjoy it, and I look forward to doing it, therefore I enjoy nap time so I can get stuck in. I also find that I’m constantly looking for post inspiration in everything we do together. Although this does make me appreciate our moments and remember details I’d probably ordinarily forget so not all bad if my attention drifts for a moment or two…

I started my blog to serve as a diary of Henry’s first year, or the second half of his first year but I’ve also started to feel guilty about putting our lives all over the internet when he has no say in the matter. I know that the online world plays a huge part modern life, most people are on some form of social media and in many ways blogging is no different to sharing on Facebook. And I probably have far fewer readers than most people have Facebook ‘friends’. I also know that I could delete it at the push of a button should I so wish and it would probably be forgotten fairly quickly, but it seems my mum conscience likes to torture me for all manner of things.

Do you ever feel guilty for blogging?

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  1. September 10, 2016 / 4:26 pm

    Oh my gosh, I think I could have written this post myself! I have dipped my toe into the world of blogging since having my son and, while my foray is now where near as advanced as yours, I often wonder if it’s fair for me to splash his life online without his say so. I frequently question what his reaction to the blog might be when he’s a teenager or adult and what impact it might have on him in the future (I am also a fellow overthinker!). On the flip side I’m thankful that I’m starting to record moments that I might otherwise forget (I have a terrible memory) and I have the opportunity to start conversations with others. It’s reassuring to know that other bloggers have these doubts too. Aside from this, love the blog, and I will be following!

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 11, 2016 / 7:19 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment Jo, it’s good to know I’m not the only one! I don’t think there that much difference between blogging and Facebook, I think when our children are older there will be very few that haven’t featured on the internet; on blogs or on social media. I think it’s because it’s new to our generation that makes me nervous about it, I hope it doesn’t have a negative impact when he’s older! x

  2. September 12, 2016 / 8:55 am

    There is ALWAYS going to be something to feel guilty about, I think that’s just part and parcel of being a mum. I’m sat here now catching up on my blogging while the children watch the television and I feel guilty for that. But the reason I’m doing it now is so I can take them to the park later, which makes me feel better about the guilt! Don’t feel guilty for having a little time to yourself, we all need something just for US, it’s important to remember that. #mg

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 16, 2016 / 10:09 pm

      Thank you! I think there’s always something to feel guilty for, as you say it’s part of being a mum! x

  3. September 12, 2016 / 9:44 am

    Oh no.. Don’t feel guilty at all. My daughter is 10-months-old now and I look forward to her nap time to write. It’s okay. If blogging makes you happy, do it. We need it to feel sane. Taking care of a child is not easy and we need everything we can do to be happy and relax, blogging in your case 🙂

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 16, 2016 / 10:08 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment! It’s nice to have some reassurance! x

  4. September 12, 2016 / 10:52 am

    Oh all the time and for that reason I pretty much abandoned my blog over the summer. Other things take priority! #mg

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 16, 2016 / 10:07 pm

      If it gets too much I’ll stop. That said I should probably spend my evenings sleeping, not blogging! x

  5. September 14, 2016 / 3:42 am

    When I started blogging right after the twins were born I had no guilt pangs because nobody, absolutely nobody was reading my blog and it really didn’t matter. Now, however, as they enter their tweens I have become more careful of what I put out there. Over time the scope of my blog has widened to include general observations rather than an update of their day to day lives which they might not like at all. All I’ll say is enjoy your time with your son, document the good bits and let your blog evolve. Most of all enjoy the writing, don’t feel guilty.

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 16, 2016 / 10:03 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I think as Henry grows if it’s still going I’ll probably widen my topic range like you! x

  6. September 15, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    AAAAGGGGHHHH, stop feeling guilty, please! I think we all start to feel guilty for a variety of reasons when we become parents. To be a parent is to feel guilty. Remember that, to be the best parent you can be, you need to things for yourself too. Please don’t feel guilty. We like reading your posts. Pen x #KCACOLS

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 16, 2016 / 9:53 pm

      Thank you Pen! I keep trying to remind myself! I started this series to open up about feeling guilty and invite others to so we can all support each other in shaking off guilt. Every week something new crops up but you’ve made me feel better about this one! Thank you! x

  7. September 17, 2016 / 11:57 am

    honestly I don’t feel guilty about sharing our lives, I think in some ways because I use ‘pretend’ names for my children on social media, so therefore future friends or employers can’t find my blog through just googling mu children’s names. When they are older if they chose to share their names then that will be their choice. I also do’t share a lot about my 12 year olds changing body etc because she would hate that and I want to that to her. Mostly my kids love doing things for my blog, or being in Instagram pics. I feel guilty more about the time it takes away from them when I am busy doing something for the blog. But then I know for me I am following my passion of writing and I know some of my blog posts help other people so I feel good about that.

    As a mum our children watch us closely and even when they are tint they sense when we are stressed or happy. If blogging makes us happy then our children are happier too. I love that my kids know I am following my passion. #mg

  8. September 17, 2016 / 12:39 pm

    Oh yes I can relate! Blogging does make me happy too, and I look forward to the quiet times to dig in deep. Oh mommy guilt. There’s always something it seems. Hugs mama.

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 19, 2016 / 6:57 pm

      Thank you! It’s nice to know it’s not just me! x

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