It’s ok…006 #mumguilt

Mum guilt logoI’m now over half way through my maternity leave and returning to work has been on my mind alot this week. I’m currently pursuing a career as a lottery winner, but should I not achieve that dream in the coming months I’ll more than likely be back at my desk in the new year.

I’m still a little way off but I can see a whole new can of mumguilt worms opening in the future. How can we win? We return to work full time and we feel guilty for leaving our children all day. We decide not to return to work and we’re losing income that could be spent on family holidays, or a bigger family home. We negotiate a part time return and it’s still hard to find a balance. When returning to work as a parent either part time or full time,we want to be able to carry out our jobs to the same standard as our pre-parent selves, without compromising our role as parents.

When maternity leave ends all mums will make the decision that is best for their families, weighing up financial, practical and emotional reasons, but can any decision ever not be tainted with guilt?

 

 

 

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  1. September 2, 2016 / 2:06 pm

    Right here with you. I was going to go back in January but with the last three months being unpaid we just simply could not afford it 🙁 now I’m going back in 6 weeks and horrendously worried about leaving my baby. We could possibly manage on just my other halfs wage though. I already feel guilty and I’m not even leaving him in a nursery, he’ll be with my mother.

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    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 4, 2016 / 7:26 pm

      Thank you for commenting. He’ll probably be more than happy with your mum, babies get loads of fuss from grandparents. I understand how you feel though, I haven’t even started to make plans yet but it’s on my mind! x

  2. September 2, 2016 / 2:28 pm

    Currently going through this mum guilt right now. I’m back to work in 1 month. I’ll be coming back part time but am already panicking about our finances as well as struggling with feelings of jealousy that my husband will actually get to spend more time with the baby than I will. I’m hoping that once I’m back things will naturally settle into the new normal and everything will balance out.

    • Now my Name is Mummy
      September 4, 2016 / 7:24 pm

      Thank you for commenting. I’m sure they will. I suppose it’s adjusting again in the same way you adjust when you have a newborn. It’s tought though, good luck with starting back at work! x

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